Just lately I've been finding myself asking the question, "am I doing this right?"
I don't wish to sound a neurotic Woody Allen type but, I guess, on some levels, that is exactly what I am and that is causing me to question whether I am actually any good at this life thing.
I have begun to wonder if I am to life, what my mate is to common sense. My mate is the cleverest person I know but, when it comes to common sense, he makes a camel looked gifted. At a time when I am trying to make life simple, I seem to be making it more and more complicated without having the first idea how I'm managing to make such a tangled mess.
As my regular readers will know I decided to take a break from the dating scene, at least whilst I sorted my head out, and concentrate on developing friendships. In that respect things have been going great - or at least that was what I thought until Saturday night when my friend declared that she, "loved me."
By my reckoning, in the past 12 months, three women have told me they love me, one woman hasn't (obviously, more than one hasn't - but, hopefully, you know what I mean?) and one has displayed hatred towards me (yes, my relationship with the ex-wife is still strained!).
Is it just me that makes this sort of complicated mess?
Life IS complicated...but sometimes in sorting it out we try to do ALL the sorting at the same time and make it all more difficult than it is! And women? We are SO complicated. ;-)
ReplyDeleteHey Spencer, we all ask ourselves that question at some stage ( more than once ). Are you the only one to make a complicated mess of your life; no! Imagine having 3 women tell you they love you in 1 year. I haven't had that many tell me that in 43 years. You must be something special my friend.
ReplyDeleteIt's a tribute to you that three women would say that - even if it does complicate things. I suspect it's how the other two have been behaving that's really complicating everything. Your head's finding it difficult to get round it all. Just keep going and give it time ...and don't be so hard on yourself.
ReplyDeleteYou must be a very lovable soul to be loved by so many women! Maybe they don't mean they are IN LOVE with you, maybe they just love you for the decent chap that you are, there IS a difference y'know. I love lots of people, but it's not the same as being IN LOVE. Don't get yer knicjkers it a twist over it, just bask in the glory and make sure they know you're not quite at the same passion level as they are. Life can be complicated if you let it. But on the other hand it can be very simple too.
ReplyDeleteI think we are soul mates...just sayin!!:)!!
ReplyDeleteWell I can't comment on your relationship muddles BUT I do believe that we all question ourselves too much, instead of just "being". Like someone else said, don't be too hard on yourself, take things at your own pace and remember what makes your heart sing (not who). =HMx (Did that sound like twaddle?)
ReplyDeleteI think sticking to your original plan of sorting yourself out is a good idea. I a friend declares she loves you - that's flattering and really brave of her to stick her neck out - but if it's not returned then you need to let her down and get back to yourself. As Selina says - it's quite a statement that so many have declared love for you. It's clearly them, not you, that is the problem.
ReplyDeleteIf you figure out a right way to do life please let me know. I think if you're surviving you're doing a pretty good job.
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Nope, not just you. We're all good at making complicated messes! :-) but congrats on all the love! (Heehee) -Missy
ReplyDeleteHey, where are your more recent posts? -Missy
ReplyDeleteI've decided to give the dating scene a rest for a while too. It's all far too much fun and frankly I'm exhausted (sceptical face emoticon.) Let's comfort ourselves with the idea that it's great blogging fodder though shall we?
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