As humans we have triggers that make us recall vivid memories. These triggers can be a scent, a touch, a taste, a sight or a sound. Most of my memories are triggered by sounds and, more precisely, music. I had one of those trigger moments today. I was listening to a band that I've known for many a long year. In fact when I first started listening to them, as a fresh faced 20 year old, they were still in nappies and had to be breastfed between songs.
I am referring of course to Ash. It has been known for me to convince myself that I was never in love with my ex-wife but, today, when I heard this song I knew that was a crock of sh1t! I used to listen to this song whilst I was driving up the M1 to visit her at University. I loved those days and I still love this song:
Then came this song which reminds me of a much more recent love:
and finally this one that reminds me of a long distant love affair (with Jackie Chan):
PS. They all need to be played loud to achieve maximum effect!
I love that moment when you realize you loved someone with all that you had and you have zero regrets for it.
ReplyDeleteGreat healing post, Spencer!
Hi,
ReplyDeletegood for you, your realisation was incredibly touching. Its a pretty significant" break through moment" to be able to look through a difficult time and see clearly without distortion. I don't normally "follow" men, (nothing weird just looking for shared interests) but I like your blogs and look forward to reading more. Just starting blogging myself, so a bit new to this would appreciate a bit of feedback but you don't have to of course I will still read yours ha!
Agree with T! That is a GREAT feeling. That is how I think about my ex, sometimes...just glad we had that time together, even though our marriage ended (Rightly so). I can think fondly back to him and not be sad or upset or regretful. That's healing my friend!
ReplyDeleteHi Alison,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment. I have tried to find your blog but I seem to be failing. I would love to your read it - if you could let me have the address?
Spencer
I hope so. I know I never want to go back to days when my ex-wife and I disliked each other!
ReplyDeleteThank you Ms T.
ReplyDeleteHi Spencer, I've mentioned your blog post over at my place.
ReplyDeleteNoce post.
ReplyDeleteFunny how those memories start pouring in like that. Just this morning, I had a flashback because some books fell off the coffee table and made a horrible sound like owls' wings flapping. BTW, I found you through Dicky's post today...
Thank you Nessa - I am crap at finding blogs. I would love to take a look at yours if you could show me where it is?
ReplyDeleteThank you Dicky - that really is appreciated.
ReplyDelete(Especially as this wasn't the best post I've ever written!).