Last year I attended the wedding reception of a former colleague and friend of mine. My friend had been married previously but, as he said to me, he had finally met his soulmate. His wife to be had been battling cancer but had, we thought, won the battle. She looked wonderful in her wedding dress and showed no signs of the arduous times that she had endured over the previous couple of years.
I was informed last night that the cancer had returned and that she had passed away on Sunday night.
To say it was a shock would be an understatement. I currently feel shocked, shaken and a little numb.
I never quite know what to do in such events. Should I attend the funeral? Should I just send my condolences?
I'm not entirely sure but, I do know I feel emotionally drained so I can't even begin to think how my friend feels.
A sad day indeed.
Oh my goodness, that is so tragic and sad. My heart feels heavy for her family. To marry her soulmate and conquer cancer, only for it to return. Wow. Cancer is a bitch (as T has said!), isn't it? Hang in there...
ReplyDeleteWhen I lost my parents - although on seperate occasions, I was aware of the distance some people kept - as they did not know what to say. It did hurt me and I vowed then, that when somebody I knew experienced a bereavement I would send them a card with words that I could identify with "Trusting the times you spent together will be a source of comfort in the days to come." There are some blank cards out there - but to let your friend know he is in your thoughts will help him I am sure. I would attend the funeral too - again to support your friend. Death takes those we love with a vengence - HUGS to you from Yorkshire xx
ReplyDeleteI would go to the funeral if you can X Life is really stinky sometimes x
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear that mate. I'd go to the funeral but then I'm a big one of paying respects in person. That is a sad day indeed.
ReplyDeleteI'm still not decided whether to or not yet. I'm not sure that I knew her well enough.
ReplyDeleteIt can be very hard.
ReplyDeleteThank you Denise.
ReplyDeleteI did send a card and used your kind words.
Cancer really is a bitch.
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